Keys to Career Confidence

author of "From Fear to Courage: Managing Career Crises".

Keys to Career Confidence

by Dr Susie Linder-Pelz

author of "From Fear to Courage: Managing Career Crises".

Many of us clarify the career move we want to make—such as changing careers, negotiating with our boss, applying for jobs or going out on our own—then we lack the confidence to take the next step.

Confidence issues are the most common concern of people wanting Good Decisions Career Coaching. Confidence issues affect people of all ages and occupations. In particular, men who have been made redundant in midlife often suffer crises of confidence and successful women feel shaky or stuck behind confident veneers.

Confidence comes from doing something well and noticing it. Those who feel confident are those who believe they can learn and who act on that belief. To boost our confidence in relation to work it is useful to focus on seven sets of skills:

Ø Learning about all work options that are available

Ø Learning better job search skills

Ø Learning how to change thoughts and feelings that used to hold us back unnecessarily

Ø Learning how to access good feelings such as courage and calm

Ø Learning to visualise the work we want, set goals and make plans

Ø Learning work-related skills that we enjoy and that make us more employable

Ø Learning to ask for and hear feedback in order to become even more competent.

For more information on how to take charge of your Career, enlist the support of your own personal Career Coach.

To find out more about Equilibrio & Good Decisions Career Coaching,

please click here.

The Game of Health

Sarah Nanclares Health Coach, ND

Ask yourself “What it would be worth to you, to achieve your most important health outcomes?” Then ask yourself another question “What’s stopping you?”

The Games you have been playing with food, exercising, anxiety, pain and your health in general determines whether you experience energy, a razor sharp memory and pain free body or lethargy, relentless pain and stress. We all play games because of the way our minds-and-bodies work. There’s a saying “As we think, so we are”, well Games are about the set of feelings, thoughts, emotions, beliefs, values, meanings and actions that we use unconsciously when we engage in exercising, eating, challenging life situations, healing and indeed every aspect of our lives.

Have you been playing Energising and Health Building Games that give you such rewards as, looking and feeling terrific or Games that sabotage your best intentions for health and feeling fantastic?

Perhaps some of these Games sound familiar:

“I Eat to Feel Loved and Rewarded” Game

“Exercising is Punishment for Eating” Game

“I Stop Exercising to Add Variety to My life”

“I need time out and the only way I can is by being sick”

We play the Games we do because of the Rules and Understandings we have in our mind. Trying to change our habits and behaviours without changing the way we think, feel, believe, understand about our health will yield short lived results and very little real progress in our health, energy and vitality.

Do you like the Games you have been playing with your health?

Have those Games provided you with the gains for the kind of body, energy and vitality that you want?

Would you like to play some new Health Revolutionising Games?

Would you like to discard some of the Sick and Toxic Games for some that will put you in charge of you and your health?

Would you like to become willing to tell some of the Sick and Toxic Games to go to hell?

In our day-to-day lives it may seem and feel like we have no choice but to play those Games, but that is the deception. We play those Games because we know how to play them, they are familiar to us. Those Games make sense to us even though they may be destructive to our wellbeing.

Fun and Games

Would you like to take the first transformative step towards optimal health? Well, I invite you to play this Game. We begin by using a microscope on ourselves and becoming aware of the Games that we are playing with our wellbeing.

To get a clear view of the Games, we need to take a step back from our everyday experiences of how we manage or mismanage our health. Ask yourself these questions and answer the very first thing that comes to mind. There is no right or wrong so be completely honest with yourself.

Looking in at your life and watching yourself interacting with others, with your body, with food, what Games are you playing? Make a list of your Games and give them memorable, funny names.

“I ache therefore I am”

“I live on a ‘see food’ diet”

Do the Games enhance your life?

Do they empower you as a person?

Identifying the Games is the first step towards success. Next it is important that we bring acceptance to each one of our Games because all our behaviours have a positive intention although the outcomes aren’t always very good for us. Finally we work towards changing the sick and toxic Games to ones that deliver the rewards of vigour, energy, fitness etc. This may include changing our Thinking Games towards our health or changing our Feeling Games towards our body or changing our Behavioural Games in relation to exercise.

So what will 2003 be like for you? Will you just let your anxious, fatigued, aching body create a year that is full of average days or will you take charge of your health and commit to your body and mind’s transformation and embrace days filled with vigour, stamina and creativity?

For more information on how to take charge of your health, enlist the support of your own personal Health Coach.

To find out more about Equilibrio Health Coaching, please click here.

Reference:

Hall, Michael L. (2000). Games Slim People Play. Colorado, USA: Neuro-Semantics.